Thursday, June 5, 2014

TWIST OF FATE Author Shawna C. Jones Discusses Fate vs Destiny (Giveaway)

Kinky Vanilla Romance is pleased to share the romance novel Twist of Fate by Shawna C. Jones. This post is part of a virtual book tour organized by Goddess Fish Promotions. During the course of the tour, Twist of Fate will be available for only $0.99!


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Shawna will be awarding the choice of 1) a $50.00 Amazon Gift certificate 2) a half hour psychic reading of your choice of readers (up to $60.00) 3) a $50.00 Starbucks gift card to a randomly drawn commenter during this tour.

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Twist of Fate by Shawna C. Jones

 
Shawna grew up with a secret that she couldn't share with anyone. She thought of it as her "inner demon" and it shaped her life. When she became an adult, it sent her on a quest to try to find her Real Home. In Paris, she fell in love with a fellow traveler who changed her life, for better or worse. Their relationship was full of discovery and of lessons learned.

How could she come to terms with her "inner demon"? Can we change our fate or karma? Does love really conquer all?

This book is based on a true story of an independent woman's search for her true self and the meaning of life, and how she found answers in unexpected places.



Excerpt
 
I meditated in my Paris apartment the day before leaving for London.

Hurricane John had picked me up and tossed me around high in the air, and then pounded me on the sand. Like my aunt’s tea cup, I broke into pieces and lay at the bottom of the ocean. I wished sharks would eat me, but none came. But there was a gentle manatee that floated by and pushed all of my pieces together with her nose. Slowly, I became whole again. I found a shield and an arrow lying on the ocean floor, and quickly picked them up. I climbed on top of the manatee, and she easily carried me to the surface. I walked out of the water with my treasures and lay in the warm sun letting it heal my wounds. I closed my eyes for a time.

When I opened them an eagle was hovering above me, staring at me. I realized its message of freedom and strength, and soaring to new heights. I would be happy with or without John. I really did not need him. I never did. A connection to the divine was at hand and I needed to prepare. Change would be coming, and I welcomed it with open arms.

London. Home again. I felt like I could breathe once more. My new life had begun and I waited for the stirrings of new growth to move me onward and upward. No more going backwards ever again, I swore to myself.

I moved in with Trina. We became friends when I worked in London. A successful lawyer with room to spare for a lost American gal. But not for long, I hoped.



Author Bio 

Shawna C. Jones lives in the US, when she's not traveling the world. She lives with her husband, and "inner demon" quite peacefully now. She is continuing her mission of helping others, and encouraging young people to travel and follow their dreams.

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Fate vs Destiny

My book talks about fate and destiny at times. What’s the difference between the two? Are we at the mercy of our fate, for better or worse?

Although some dictionaries define both as pretty much the same thing, I agree with the distinction explained on Wikipedia:

Traditional usage defines fate as a power or agency that predetermines and orders the course of events. Fate defines events as ordered or "inevitable" and unavoidable.

Destiny is used with regard to the finality of events as they have worked themselves out; and to that same sense of "destination", projected into the future to become the flow of events as they will work themselves out.

By both of these definitions, it seems we don’t have a lot of control or power over what happens to us. And yet I know, I can change my destiny for better or worse, but fate? It seems that sometimes negative things happen no matter how hard you try to avoid them.

It’s been said many times, that fate is like a déjà vu, a feeling that this event or meeting has happened before. I know most of us have probably had that feeling. I’ve had it many times in my life, and each time it happens, I become more aware of the situation and persons involved. It means something, and the goal is to find out what that is. A mystery in itself. Why do I have this feeling for someone I just met? Usually you feel some sort of connection to the person in question, and don’t understand why. Plus you feel you’ve done this dance many times before. This is a fated or even karmic connection.

Destiny can be changed by the choices we make. If we don’t like where we are going in life, we can change it. We make different choices and that affects which way the time line is going to travel. It’s like weaving a tapestry. Now the fabric gets woven in a different direction. You won’t know if it’s the best decision until later on. But the good news is, if you don’t like where you are, you can change it. So destiny, at least to me, gives more power and freedom than fate. Although I think if you changed your life drastically, you might also change your fate. I don’t believe it’s all carved out in stone. The jury is still out on this one.

In my book, if I had made a different choice, I believe my fate and destiny would have changed. And it would have affected other people. Our choices are powerful, whether we know it or not. There are always consequences to every decision we make, for better or worse. Anyone not choosing to make a decision, is still making one, and that affects their destiny.

So do people pay for the negative things they do to others? All the time. My hope is that justice happens in this lifetime. Don’t forget that the pain you cause others, you get to experience once you die. How do I know? I’ve talked to several near death survivors, or read some of their books. And I have personal experience from someone who passed away some time ago. Their suffering is endless. And that’s how it should be, especially for those who consciously hurt others. It’s about accountability, and not blaming the victim. Society seems to have forgotten this important concept.

My advice is to be very careful of your choices. We have to have empathic understanding for other people. Doing something hurtful to win, can cause great suffering to yourself. We have to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes. If we did that, we wouldn’t even think about harming anyone or anything else, including animals. And hopefully we wouldn’t even have wars.

How have you been affected by fate or destiny?


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17 comments:

  1. I met my husband many years ago when we were both young teenagers. We were very attracted to each other that summer. Our lives went in different directions. Ten years ago we ran into each other when unknowingly I moved into his neighborhood. We're happiky married now.

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    2. Thanks for sharing Karen. That's interesting. I'll bet you were both surprised to see each other again. A fated meeting. I love it!

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  2. I love your discussion on fate vs. destiny! I truly believe that all things happen for a reason, but we do have choices we make that influence not necessarily what happens, but how we handle what happens, which can influence our future path. I look back and can see many instances where fate has led me the path that I am on now - several moves I have made, quitting my job and relocating where I could be home with my kids...even meeting my husband. Great post, thanks for sharing!

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  3. I love the analysis of Fate vs Destiny. I have often believed that Destiny is the end result, the thing we can shape but in the end, the thing that is what it is. Fate however I have always thought was a combination of luck and how we deal with situations. It's always interesting to see what other people think about it. Thank you for sharing.

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    1. You're welcome evrythngzen. I don't know why I didn't see this post earlier. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the subject.

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  4. Thanks Margaret for sharing your experiences and thoughts. I was always told from people I knew that "you can change your destiny, but you can't change your fate." I keep trying. Glad your life turned out the way you wanted.

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  5. I probably have--it's hard to know what's guided your path until you have a chance to see the big picture!

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    1. Thanks vitajex for your thought. As the saying goes, "I wish I knew then what I know now.

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  6. Great post on fate and destiny. I believe things happen for a reason. I look at my own life and it's like things that have happened were meant to be.

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    1. Thanks for your comment, Rita. I think some things are meant to be and you can't change them no matter what.

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  7. Great post. I really enjoyed the explanation of fate vs destiny. Thanks for that!

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    1. You're welcome poisnivyred. Fate supposedly cannot be changed. I'm still working on that one.

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  8. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on fate/destiny. If you were to ask me 15 years ago about either concept, I would have shrugged it off. Many things have happened since then that I now know were more than a coincidence and I am a believer in both.

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  9. Welcome to Kinky Vanilla Romance, Shawna. I am happy to have you here.

    Thanks so much for doing this guest post. You make an interesting distinction between fate and destiny. I am not sure if I have been affected by fate or destiny. I'd like to think that I am shaping my destiny.

    I hope that you have a great tour!

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  10. Very interesting thank you. Not sure I have been affected, but who knows.

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